What is Play Therapy?

Melody Diehl Licensed Professional Therapist EMDR trauma therapy and play therapy
Melody Diehl, LPC, RPT
Virginia Beach, VA
Upon entering the Play Therapy room, parents often carry preconceived notions rooted in their own exposures to conventional adult therapy. These might stem from cinematic portrayals, personal introspections, or the collective wisdom of digital readings. Witnessing their child immersed in what appears to be mere child's play, all within a therapeutic context, can indeed stir feelings of puzzlement and intrigue. It beckons the question: How do these playful acts serve the deep, healing purpose that therapy promises?

"Why is my child, who's been bullied, engrossed in dressing up dolls with their therapist?"

"Why is a teen, battling academic pressures, constructing war scenes in a sandbox?"

"And why, oh why, is the therapist letting them be so chaotic in their play?!"

Such thoughts are natural, a loving testament to your desire for your child's healing. But the magic of this playroom lies not just in the toys or activities, but in the transformative journey they usher in. As mysterious as play therapy might seem, its results are tangible and transformative. And that's why parents return, recommend, and resonate with it.

Why Play Therapy Works

Play is a child's natural language. Just as adults find solace and understanding in words, children find their truth and catharsis in play. In the vibrant realm of play, kids can:
  • Build Trust: With every toy they choose and story they craft, they're entrusting their therapist with fragments of their world.
  • Express Emotions: Where words might fail, a simple act of knocking over a tower or a silent puppet show can convey a torrent of feelings.
  • Develop Resilience: By revisiting traumatic events in the safety of play, they're learning the magic of bouncing back.
  • Develop Resilience: By revisiting traumatic events in the safety of play, they're learning the magic of bouncing back.
  • Cultivate Empathy: Understanding characters in their play stories often mirrors understanding emotions and motivations of those around them.
  • Enhance Self-Regulation: Play Therapy provides a space for them to navigate emotions, learning to handle them effectively.
  • Strengthen Family Bonds: Through guided family sessions, play can redefine parent-child dynamics, fostering a deeper connection and understanding.
Each child carries their own unique narrative. While some find solace in play to address their wounds, others use it to enhance their social skills. Yet, within the nurturing confines of Play Therapy, healing blossoms in its truest form.

A Glimpse into Play Therapy with Melody

Melody, with her deep expertise in play therapy, welcomes you to this realm of healing. She believes that every toy, every act of play, and every imaginative story spun by a child is a doorway into their psyche. By entering their metaphorical worlds, Melody meets children in their comfort zones, enabling them to process life's enormities on a scale they can manage. Whether it's using a crayon, throwing an object into a basket, or engaging in an imaginative quest, it's all therapeutic.

Your Role in Your Child's Play Therapy

In Play Therapy, your role as a parent is both subtle and significant. While the space is primarily designed for the child to freely express and explore their feelings, you play a crucial part in facilitating and supporting this therapeutic journey. By observing, occasionally participating, and staying attuned to your child's play narratives, you can gain deeper insights into their inner world. Your presence, when guided by the therapist, can reinforce trust, safety, and continuity between therapy sessions and daily life, bridging the therapeutic experience to your home environment.

Play Therapy: Your Questions Answered

I understand that Play Therapy can come with a host of questions, especially for parents wanting the best for their children. Below, I've addressed some of the most common questions parents like you have asked.

What is the main goal of Play Therapy?

Play therapy helps children express themselves, process complex emotions, and address various issues they might be facing – all through the universal language of play. In Play Therapy, we can address complex trauma, mood disorders such as anxiety and depression, developmental disability, domestic violence, and family life cycle transitions

How does playing with toys help my child address their issues?

Toys serve as tools for children to communicate feelings, experiences, and ideas that they might find hard to put into words. Each toy or activity offers a safe medium to explore and express their emotions. As a trained Play Therapy professional, I'm able to recognize patterns in your child's play that help them to express what they're unable to articulate through words.

Why is play therapy more effective for kids than traditional talk therapy?

Children, especially the younger ones, often lack the vocabulary to express complex emotions. Play provides a natural medium for them to communicate, understand, and heal.

Why is my child drawn to certain toys and not others?

Just as adults are drawn to specific therapeutic techniques or activities, children gravitate towards toys that resonate with their feelings, experiences, or challenges at that moment.

What's the significance of the sandbox or sand tray therapy?

Sand tray therapy allows children to create a world using miniature toys, which can mirror their inner state. This aids therapists in understanding their perceptions, fears, and desires.

How do you, as the therapist, interpret the play actions of my child?

As a certified therapist, I observe patterns, themes, and specific play behaviors, drawing upon my extensive knowledge to understand the underlying emotions or issues your child is experiencing.

Do you guide their play or just let them take the lead?

While I might introduce specific toys or themes based on therapeutic goals, children largely lead the sessions. This ensures they express authentically.

How involved should I be in the therapy sessions?

Parental involvement varies based on the child's needs and the therapy approach. However, regular consultations and feedback sessions ensure parents are in the loop.

Why does my child seem more emotional during or after a session?

Play therapy taps into deep emotions, and it's natural for children to display a range of feelings. Over time, they'll learn to process and manage these emotions better.

I've seen my child display aggressive play here. Should I be worried?

Not necessarily. Play Therapy is a safe space where children can express their feelings without judgment. Aggressive play can be a way for them to process certain emotions. Your therapist will discuss any concerning patterns with you.

How long does a typical play therapy session last?

Most sessions are 45 minutes, but this can vary based on the child's age and needs.

When can we expect to see changes in our child's behavior or emotions?

Each child is unique, and the number of sessions needed varies. However, many parents notice gradual positive changes in their child's behavior and emotional well-being as the therapy progresses.

Can play therapy be combined with other forms of therapy?

Absolutely! Depending on the child's needs, play therapy can complement other therapeutic interventions, like child-centered EMDR.

Will you provide feedback about my child's progress?

Yes, regular feedback sessions are scheduled to keep parents informed and involved in their child's therapeutic journey.

Are there activities we should continue at home?

I may suggest activities or play themes that parents can incorporate at home to reinforce the therapeutic process.